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Helena Artmann has a bachelor degree in Communications with a vast experience in PR and the online world. Before moving to Canada in 2005, Helena published a variety of articles in Brazilian magazines and websites, mostly about travel, adventure, outdoor, gear, environment and her favourite activities, mountaineer and hot air ballooning. This is her website: http://artmanncommunications.com

A Child’s Path To Independency

a glass of water

I was on a meeting with a client and seeing her dealing with two teenage girls made me think that I am still very far from having an independent son. She told me the story that, as a work mom, she liked to bring a glass of water every evening to her kids. And, now, as they are growing, she sometimes tells them that she brought too many glasses of water…

I loved the story and kept thinking if there is such a thing as too many glasses of water. I certainly don’t know the answer but this doesn’t stop me contemplating if I am bringing too many glasses of water to my son.

Even if I am far from having an independent son, I have been enjoying the present moment and little signs that he is growing – sometimes, faster than I would like to but, let’s be frank here, sometimes way slower than I would like to!

My 6th mother’s day brought an important fact to our lives: He IS growing. And this means he is becoming more and more independent. This past weekend he started leaving the house alone to play with our new neighbor, an old friend from the daycare. It is still a timid movement, but one that I can’t see not moving forward.

On the same weekend, we went out for a bike ride and I saw my son crossing streets and biking around a little street mall by himself, completely independent and very determined. Another movement that I just can see growing and sprawling.

And as I write this, I contemplate the day when my son will walk by himself to school, just four blocks away. This day is approaching incredibly fast and I couldn’t imagine I was going to write this just a couple of months ago, when his Grade 1 started. Yes, we live in a very residential part of town. Yes, it is a very small town. And yes, the way to school is very straightforward and just has three streets to cross. But still.

Another sign of his path towards independency happened last night, when he was hungry just after our light supper and I saw him, probably for the first time ever, opening the fridge and grab something to eat. So much going on for a single weekend! And if you want to know how I feel as a mother, I do feel great.

I have a mom that praised us for every little independence accomplishments we had in life. I still remember the first time I walked a few blocks by myself in this small town where they still live in south of Brazil, when I was much older than my son, coming back from the library, and how big of an achievement that was! She didn’t let this pass without complimenting me for it and the feeling still accompanies me.

If I am on my way to install the same kind of proudness in my son as I still feel when I accomplish something by myself, I am sure I am going in the right direction. Even if the road is bumpy, the little miracles on the way is what makes it so delicious to be part of it.

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2 Comments on “A Child’s Path To Independency”

  1. Blandina May 12, 2014 at 3:01 pm #


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